You know those people who are incredibly charismatic? Those people who give off an amazing vibe that makes you want to be around them? They’re suave, and they’re good-looking, and they can easily trick you into wanting to be with them.
They’re romantic con-artists, and they pride themselves on their successes with the opposite sex (or same sex really, it is 2013 after all). What these people have, that a lot of people don’t, is an elusive personality trait colloquially referred to as “game”.
Sadly, I fall into the category of those who fail to be blessed with this trait.
… I lack game in a MAJOR way.
I don’t have game, and I am a terrible flirt. I’m far too literal (I think): I can’t just have FUN with a conversation; I unconsciously refuse to play a little verbal pingpong. Unless a boy is beating me over the head with compliments I don’t even realize he is flirting with me. And even then, I don’t believe he is being sincere… Because I may or may not be a little bit nutty.
Observing me interact with a male human is like witnessing a car accident — painful, and a little bit frightening. I’m usually oblivious to obvious come-ons, and I don’t know how to generate any romantically relevant conversation on my own: Conversing with men just isn’t my strong suit.
So, that is probably the root of my man-landing issues — maybe I’m single because I don’t possess the appropriate amount of allure, appeal, brio, charm, seductiveness, swagger, vivacity, and/or pure animal magnetism to snare a boyfriend.
I don’t know if charisma is a learned ability; I think it is far more likely that a person is born with it — nature vs. nurture and all that crap. But perhaps I can attempt to fake it?
I’m definitely going to have to try.