I have a problem with a little something called “instant gratification.” I want what I want, & I usually want it RIGHT NOW. It’s not a problem when it comes to most things in life: getting good grades, shopping, healthy living… But in terms of fostering a longterm relationship, well, it can create some kinks (not in that way, pervs). I tend to sacrifice what I want later (a healthy long term relationship with a great guy) for what I want NOW: a sloppy one-night stand with some guy who couldn’t care less about me.
The issue is that I don’t know how to pace myself. I just don’t know how to take it one step at a time… I seem to have an all-or-nothing mentality.
& when it comes to men, this means that I don’t put up a fight. There’s no challenge. I cringe to say this, but I make things too easy… & this doesn’t work when it comes to dating effectively because dudes like the chase: they are obsessed with what they can’t have. Maybe my need for instant gratification has made me too available to the opposite sex?
Well…let’s be real here. Ain’t nobody gonna buy the cow if ya’ll are giving the milk away for free.
If I want to be wanted, I’ve got to create the illusion that I am desirable: it’s supply & demand. That’s just simple economics. The more there is of me (or the more available I am, rather) the less men will want me. HOWEVER, if I make myself unavailable (reduce supplies, so to speak) BAM. I will be beating them off with sticks.
At least, in theory… Because we all know how practical economic theories can be.
It boils down to this: I need to work on my long game.
Falling in love isn’t a sprint; it’s a marathon.